Poppies on the Grave – Symbolism and Memorial Day

 From the 5/28/2021 - Memorial Day - newsletter

Perspective

Poppies on the Grave – Symbolism and Memorial Day

By Capt. Tej Ishaan Mehta MD - United States Air Force Medical Corps and Internal Medicine Resident Physician

Dr. Mehta reminds us why Memorial Day is such a unique holiday and how commemorating all fallen military personnel can bring us together as one nation…

One-million, three-hundred and four thousand, six hundred and eighty-four. At the time of writing, that is how many United States military personnel have perished in in the line of duty. How many mothers have wept at the sight of Death Notifiers walking to their door? How many fathers have broken down upon receiving that terrible phone call? How many lives have been ruined by the loss of a loved one in service to our country? How many lives have been saved? This Memorial Day, I urge you to consider these questions.

Memorial Day is unique amongst American holidays. All other major American holidays are marked by celebration, but Memorial Day is marked by mourning, by remembering the fallen. Memorial Day honors and mourns the United States military personnel who died in the performance of their duties. The establishment of Memorial Day is complex and uncertain, but general trends are clear. After the end of the Civil War, citizens across the United States recognized the importance of honoring those who had fallen in combat. With the death of Abraham Lincoln in 1865, commemorations were widespread. The National Cemetery System was established for casualties of war and the practice of Memorial Day became common. Across the North and the South, the fallen from both sides of the war were honored, respected, and remembered, continuing their service even in death by helping to reunite the country.

At any National Cemetery today blooms of scarlet are seen. Red poppy flowers are placed on the graves of many war dead, a tradition that dates to World War One. In 1915, after the Second Battle of Ypres, red poppies grew over the graves of some 120,000 casualties. A sea of red, to cover the blood that had been shed. The poem, “In Flanders Fields” by John McCrae, was written about the battle describing the flowers growing on graves. With it, the practice of placing red poppies on the graves of the fallen became common. The practice holds in many other countries as well, serving as an international symbol to honor the fallen.

During the Vietnam War, another somber Memorial Day tradition developed. To recognize those soldiers who were missing in action or had become prisoners of war, military dining facilities set a Missing Man table. The table is usually set for one, to symbolize their isolation. A slice of lemon is placed on the plate, to represent their bitter fates. Salt is sprinkled on the plate to represent the tears of their families. The drinking glass is inverted, to represent that they cannot partake in the meal. The chair is empty to represent their absence. Lastly, a single candle is lit to represent hope and illuminate their way home. This tradition reminds us that while we may enjoy the freedoms in our lives, those freedoms are earned by the protection and sacrifice of others.

One-million, three-hundred and four thousand, six hundred and eighty-four. As I sit here, tallying the scores of fallen soldiers I am reminded of an apocryphal quote from Josef Stalin, “The death of one man is a tragedy. The death of millions is a statistic.” The point of Memorial Day is to stand in stark contrast to that statement; to make the deaths of millions into one tragedy at a time. Memorial Day has helped mend the wounds of the Civil War, of World War One, of the Vietnam War and of countless other conflicts by bringing disparate sides together in their common loss. This Memorial Day, let us remember the good that so many sacrificed for and in so doing find that which brings us together.

Tej Ishaan Mehta, MD, is an Internal Medicine Resident at MCW and a Captain in the United States Air Force Medical Corps.